So Now What?

The first thing to do when you get engaged of course is to announce your engagement and don't forget to change your status on Social Media LOL!

Then you have to get both families together if your families are helping to pick a wedding date, plus meeting each others families if that hasn't happened yet.

Then you go over the list of who is responsible for what in the wedding.  Bride/brides family is responsible for the wedding day.  Groom/grooms family is responsible for the Rehersal Dinner.  

Now that we have all the formalities out of the way the most important thing is to FIRST get your venue secured.  The venue date secured means you can go onto the next steps in the wedding, which are picking your vendors for the wedding. No date then you cannot go forward because you need the date to secure the rest of the vendor dates. This is also the one thing that books up quick so make sure to do it first.

One thing that you do next is find the wedding dress, with a headpiece, veil, and jewelry!  That is one thing that has to be ordered in most cases.  We suggest getting your accessories at the same place because they have all the items that match, if they have your wedding dress they usually have veils to match, and if they have headpieces jewelry is there to match.  Don't try to mix and match, it doesn't look custom that way. Back to your dress, Wedding dresses can take 8-12 months to arrive especially now with supply and demand delays in shipping.  So do your research, decide on the wedding dress budget and check with Bridal Shops in Tulsa to see what the wedding dresses cost, you'll save yourself time by shopping at a store that is the perfect price range for your budget.  Then you can book your appointment.  We suggest ALWAYS making an appointment so you can get one on one service.  Your dress is one of the most important parts of the Wedding day. That is why everyone stands and turns to watch the bride some down the aisle. We suggest also be prepared to find it the first day, it happens all the time.  Bring whatever form of payment you are using or person who has to be there before you can order.  It is so exciting when you do say Yes, and that excitement is hard to recreate at a later date, so always be ready just in case.  If you want to come to Facchianos it is easy to make an appointment 24/7 on our website www.facchianos.com make sure to have styles of things you think you like and colors so the consultants can help you find the perfect wedding dress that encapsulates your wedding vision. We would love to help you! 

Then next thing to do is get your next vendors chosen, Photographer, because you probably want to do engagement photos.  Then get your videographer (one of the best things you can do to remember your wedding because it flies by). Then get your caterer, and cake designer.  Those things go pretty fast since there are only so many to choose from.  

Next we suggest not long after you decide about your wedding dress you should look locally for bridesmaid dresses.  We do not encourage buying online because you will not always get the correct sizing, color, fit, shipped on time, or quality you will get locally.  Plus if you care about your community your sales tax stays in your community when you buy local. Local businesses are your friends and neighbors too.  Plus, you can have someone to ask about alterations, local shops steam your dress, and you can have someone to speak to if there should be any issue.  If you need bridesmaid dresses and want excellent customer service you can also book that appointment here www.facchianos.com

Next you should secure your tuxedos or suits for the groomsmen.  If you purchased your bridesmaids dresses at Facchianos you can get your tuxedos to match perfect in our same shop.  We do that to make your life easy.  you can pre shop on our website https://www.jimsformalwear.com/myjfw/build-a-tux/styles 

or you can just book your appointment here too! We have the most styles, the best prices, and the best customer service in Tulsa! We also can help you and your groomsmen even if they live out of town just like the National Chains!

Then you will have to do all the other little details like, bridal registries before you have any showers, pick flowers, pick linens for tables, do the guest list (this is where all your food and drink expense happen so be picky LOL), and order invitations.

Here is a list of must haves...

Guest book & Pen, cake cutter & server, 2 garters (one to keep one to toss), wedding bands, wedding shoes, wedding programs, wedding favors for the guests, wedding departure (bubbles, flower petals, sparklers...), flower girl basket, ring bearer pillow, gifts for wedding party, lots of wedding stamps, thank you notes, gifts for parents (we have embroidered hankies) 

The MOST IMORTANT thing about the wedding is the marriage for sure.  We want your wedding to be amazing and the marriage to last happily ever after! Also remember to figure out what the most important thing to you is for the wedding and budget accordingly from most important to least important.  This is your wedding and it should be everything you've dreamed of and more!